Every year, close to 700,000 people die by suicide worldwide—and in nearly every country, men account for the majority. For men between 15 and 44, suicide remains a leading cause of premature death. And one of the most consistent—and least discussed—triggers for male suicide is the end of an intimate relationship.
A recent global review published in the journal Psychological Bulletin provided a sobering look at the role that relationship breakdowns played in male suicide. A team of Australian and Canadian researchers conducted the review, scrutinizing data from 75 studies spanning more than 30 countries. Based on a sample size of over 100 million men, their results showed that separation and divorce dramatically increase the risk of suicidal thoughts, attempts, and deaths. The danger is most acute in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, especially among younger unemployed men, socially isolated men, or men struggling with emotion regulation.
Who is most at risk?
The review identified several risk factors that consistently magnify post-breakup vulnerability:
- Men 34 and under were at the highest risk for suicide after a breakup.
- Those with lower education or without steady employment were more likely to spiral into despair.
- Loneliness and lack of social support play a powerful role.
- Difficulty managing anger, grief, or shame can make suicidal thoughts more likely.
Evidence suggests that cultural factors can also play a role. In parts of East Asia, for example, divorce can carry intense stigma, and fathers often lose daily contact with their children. In such settings, suicide rates among divorced men can be even higher.
Why breakups can hit men harder
Healthy relationships give people structure, meaning, and a sense of belonging. When that structure collapses, men—who are often socialized to “handle it themselves”—may withdraw rather than seek help. Many turn to alcohol, work, or isolation as a coping mechanism.
The idea that men must remain stoic in crisis only makes things worse. Without emotional outlets or practical support, shame and helplessness can fester until they become life-threatening.
What can help
There is one takeaway from the research that is especially important: The first months after a breakup are critical. That’s when men need the most support—but also when they are least likely to ask for it.
- Stay connected. Isolation fuels risk. Regular check-ins with friends, family members, or a counsellor can be lifesaving.
- Establish structure quickly. Routine restores a sense of control when everything else feels chaotic.
- Seek professional help early. Therapists trained in grief, trauma, or men’s mental health can help rebuild coping skills and identity.
- Address practical issues. Financial strain, custody battles, and housing instability all compound emotional pain. Practical support can reduce risk more than pep talks ever could.
Warning signs to watch for
Loved ones should take notice if a man going through a breakup suddenly withdraws, starts drinking heavily, talks about being a burden, or gives away possessions. Don’t wait for clear “signs” of intent. Asking directly about suicide doesn’t initiate the idea; instead, it creates an opportunity for assistance.
While relationship loss alone might not be enough to cause men to commit suicide, it can often be viewed as the event that breaks an already fragile balance. Understanding this truth isn’t about placing blame; it’s about taking preventive measures. When a relationship ends, it is easy to focus on pragmatic issues such as property division, child custody, and other legal aspects while ignoring the deeper emotional collapse. The evidence now tells us that the cost of that neglect can be fatal.
If you or someone you love is contemplating suicide, seek help immediately. For help 24/7 dial 988 for the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or reach out to the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741. To find a therapist near you, visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.
